Is she overwhelmed?

Last night,
She and I had an unexpected talk together....
Unexpected in the sense that we didn't planned it...
Much was said,
But sadly, it seems we're nowhere near getting back together.
When I asked her about her thoughts about patching up,
Her reply was that she did not want to.
Not that she does not love me,
But rather she is not ready for it.
I still did not understand.

This morning a good friend of mine called from Canada,
And helped me see things from her point of view.
It did made some sense...
And upon further thoughts,
I added some of my own understandings...
For one,
When someone loves another
More than the other can reciprocate,
The person being loved more would feel the pressure
To reciprocate in kind.
Unfortunately,
When one is pressured in this case,
Not everyone can feel they can return the love sufficiently...
And there are a few ways they'll react...
One way, they simply bask in the love they receive,
And the giver would eventually burn out,
Conflicts would start, and things would break down...
The other way,
Is that the one on the receiving would try to better the other,
Like in a competittion,
Both would eventually be too exhausted to love each other anymore.
Another way,
Would be what both of have taken,
Or rather she has taken...
To call a time-out,
Or in this case choose break-up.
Is this the best solution?
I do not know.
My friend mentioned about being balanced...
Don't really understand that part yet though,
But I think she's trying to say,
That apart from being able to give,
One must learn to take as well...
When we do not take,
We deprive the other person the gift of giving...

Perhaps,
She's been giving all that she could probably muster right now,
And yet still feel that she's not given enough...

Perhaps,
She is overwhelmed, and does not know what to do...

But if that is the case,
Does it mean I have to love her less?
How can you love the other person less?
How can one choose control how much you love?
Why is this so confusing?
How is it that this problem surfaces only now?