In God We Trust

Talking to my friend and my Dad last night, really opened my eyes to see things that I thought I was once knew differently! My friend and I were talking about things we realise that we probably need in our spouses, not just our significant-halfs. Things like level of intimacy, sexual, physical or otherwise, and both of us came to a conclusion that we can never be sure whether or not, the needs that we seek in the other person will be met! And its awfully frightening to wake up one day, and think to yourself that the person next to you, doesn't seem to really compliment you. Even if you try to talk about it, chances are your partner may say one thing now, but when you get married things become different, simply because no one is sure about his/her future!!! So in a situation like this, marriage really takes more than just feelings for each other! Love in the form of feelings just isn't enough.
Your actions, temperaments, behaviors, habits, anger management, tempers, sex drives, level of sexual/physical/emotional/spiritual intimacy, level of commitment, communication skills, energy level, hobbies etc. need to compliment each other, they really need to be in sync... Even if they are not the same, they need to be able to still compliment each other. Take for example a friend of mine and his beloved gf. The guy like any of us men, is a red-blooded carnivore, but his dearly beloved is a herbivore, but they get along so fine that sometimes I can't help but feel envious... What the guy don't eat - mainly greens, the girl munches happily away, and vice-versa. Totally different, but at the same time able to compliment each others' preference in diet...
I guess that's really what courting is all about. Finding someone that you can compliment, and can compliment at the same time.
But, as you can tell by now, its almost bloody impossible to find someone like that! Let me rephrase that: It IS impossible to find someone like that on your own! Think about it, the needs and traits I've mentioned above are just the tip of the iceberg, my friends... There are more needs and traits that we desire in the person we would marry eventually to have, which are still hidden, and only until we are married are they revealed!
So how in the world are we to ensure we have a happy and wonderful marriage? When the odds are certainly against us?
That's where my Dad comes in...
Introducing: Daddy's Theory... (I knew that already, but needed him to reinforce my thoughts!)
Anyway,
His answer is ancient but simple, and it still applies today.
It is found on the dollar notes of the United States.

"In God We Trust."

Its as simple as that really.
It sums up all those "que sera sera-s", all those "if its meant to be, it'll be-s", all those "shi ni de, ju shi ni de-s... " And nothing can change that. Fact is that we really are that helpless, when it comes to finding our lifelong partners, because half the time we aren't really sure what we want, nor are we sure what our partners are, and at the end of the day it all boils down to God. Even if we are sure, we cannot be certain that they'll be around tomorrow...
But the good news is, that the fact still stands:
God wants the best for us, and only He knows who is the best for us.
In God I (am still trying) Trust.
Trusting in God is always a journey into depravation, depression and sometimes even death, but at the same time we learn lessons in life that can be taught only by God, and also find the things or people that God knows we would find joy in having.
Its a journey, enjoy the ride...